PLEASE, MOM! IT’S MY LIFE!

PLEASE, MOM! IT’S MY LIFE!
Author: Dr. Jaideep Singh Chadha
Published by: Pustak Mahal (http://www.pustakmahal.com/)

Many books have been written for children, but not so for adolescents and young adults. This is the group of our society, which needs help, for this is considered neither here nor there. Parents, schools and society do not quite understand the young minds. Often these youngsters end up taking the wrong step.
The present trend of thinking of youth is that parents are not exactly their well wishers. They are fine till they ‘give in, all the time’, but the moment they don’t, they become public enemy. I would like to tell these young friends, that parents and not Anne or Rahul are your best friends.
What one sees today is that children are stressed to levels which are beyond the comprehension of the adult minds, especially parents, who want their children to be the best in every field and their feelings are shattered if they don’t perform to the expected level. They can’t seem to comprehend the reasons for their child not topping, all the time. This stresses the children to no end, because they have to come up to their own expectations as well as their parents’ and the schools.
Somewhere along the line, society has also begun to demand its pound of flesh. It is a matter of prestige for the school to have the best results in the region. It enhances the school’s reputation, which imparts the best education. Since that has already been accepted as the yardstick, nothing can be done there. Another yardstick that measures the level of happiness and contentment in students should be incorporated.
In your quest for success, you have forgotten the basic principle of life. Come on, people! Get real. We are not here just to study, get a good job and earn lots of money. Life is much more than that. Life has to be lived. We have forgotten to do that. God did not create schools, curriculums, jobs and all that…Man did.
God did not make us divine just to work on a job. He wanted us to perform greater deeds. And how is life to be lived? That is the million-dollar question. I have attempted to help you get an answer to that one. Obviously, you have to search for answers, which are suitable for you. What the author has given you here is the first step to the ladder of life. To try and live a life that has the least stress. Ways to hit the ball through the slips or duck when life throws a bouncer at you. You will have to find and climb the rest of the steps or rungs yourself.

How to shape your Kids better

Hari Datt Sharma has performed yeoman service to parents and teachers, through his book – “How to Shape your Kids better” – published by Pustak Mahal, New Delhi, India (www.pustakmahal.com)

It provides practical guidelines on transforming your children into model adults. Parents often blame their children for their own failures, ignoring the fact that their offspring tend to emulate what they themselves do, rather than what they preach. They overlook the obvious that they should be good examples themselves, and by developing a healthy atmosphere for better emotional, mental and physical growth of their children.

Hari Datt Sharma, a retired Senior Teacher, and the found of Peace of Mind Mission based in New Delhi, under went training in Special Education in the U.K. He has won many awards in the field of special education.

Priced at an affordable Rs. 65, the book is a must for all connected with education.

Let us see some of the topics he has dealt with in the book –


Parenteral Behaviour that plays Havoc with Children
Over protection and Restrictiveness
Rejection – a Masked Deprivation
Over-permissiveness and Indulgence
Parenteral Over-expectations
Favouritism
Maternal Deprivation
Failure in Communication
Ten Commandments for the Child’s Behaviour Developemnt

As Parents Sow, So the Children Reap
Childhood Behaviour Disorders
Stuttering (Stammering)
Bet-Wetting (Enuresis)
Sleep-Walking (Somnambulism)
Excessive Sleep
Temper Tantrums
Hyperactivity
Shyness & Withdrawal
Stealing
Lying
Thumb Sucking
Hair Plucking
Mud – Eating
Nail Biting
Runaway Reaction

Attention-Seeking Devices
School Phobia
Gifted Children
What Make Some Children Aggressive?

4. Ways to Improve Children
§ Behaviour Modification Techniques
§ Play and Family Therapy
§ The Importance of Token Economics
§ Role of Punishment
§ Fostering Creativity

5. Influence of the Environment on Children
§ Impact of Divorce on Children
§ Influence of the Employed Mother
§ Why Childrens like comics
Effect of TV on children’s behaviour


6. Helping Children Develop Basic
Skills
§ Main Development Norms
§ Developing Skills in Written Communication
§ A.
Mental Maturity
§ B.
§ Visual Readiness
§ Visual Retention
§ Visual Discrimination
§ Auditory Readiness
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7. How to Treat Common Learning Difficulties
§ Common Learning Difficulties and Methods of Treatment

8. Caring for Handicapped Children
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Ten Commandments for a Child’s Behaviour Department

When children live with encouragement, they develop CONFIDENCE.
When children live with tolerance, they learn to be PATIENT.
When children live with criticism, they learn to be CONDEMN.
When children live with ridicule, they learn to be SHY.
When children live with hostility, they learn to be FIGHT.
When children live with praise, they learn to be APPRECIATE.
When children live with shame, they learn to be GUILTY.
When children live with security, they learn to be FAITH.
When children live with approval, they learn to be LIKE themselves.
When children live with acceptance, they learn to be LOVE.